Saturday, March 31, 2007

Internet Resources

One of my long time BEST online resources for this subject is
http://www.bullyonline.org/index.htm

Where do you go online to learn about recognizing Relational Aggression?

Welcome

Coaching is a great way for people to learn new relationship skills. Many people resort to Relational Aggression (bullying) without even realizing it.

Relational Aggression is tricky, because it "seems" to pay off. The trick is that in the long run the bully suffers from a number of relational distresses and losses that can increase insecurities and anxiousness. The more anxious and insecure someone is in relationships, the more likely they are to try tactics that are aggressive. The vicious cycle begins and the behaviors perpetuate increasing aggression.

Coaching can help identify and change behavior patterns that lead down the path of destroying relationships. Everyone probably resorts to Relational Aggression at some time or another. How aware are we and how often are we engaged in that pattern?

If Relational Aggression is something you use more often than you would like and it has played a part in major losses - divorce, unemployment, legal issues, etc. then you may want to start with a local mental health professional.

If Relational Aggression is creeping in to your family, friendships and workplace, I invite you to share your stories, experiences and ideas on this blog.

I am glad you are here to explore ways to improve relationships and reduce aggression.